The topic of fear has been weighing heavy on me as of late. Have you ever felt like you had a strong case of FOMO? (Fear of Missing Out) I’ve realized that this has been my life lately. It’s affecting the decisions that I make and all. I talk alot about how I’m not allowing fear to rule my life, but here I am again letting fear get the best of me. Feeling like DMX, “here we go again.” But, just like all my other encounters with fear, I’m getting the W.

So, just how are you gonna do that Yadie? Well first of all, I’m gonna…

Choose me

This one is kind of hard for me, but in order to conquer my fear, it’s something I must do. My heart is so big and I want to be everything to everybody. God be like “AHT AHT,” but do I listen? I hear you now God. From this point on I’m choosing me. I’m not saying I won’t be available to anybody, but Yadie has to come first. God has a will for my life and I’m pretty sure it is not to be drained of my soul behind other people. It’s time to be just a little selfish. And that’s exactly what I’m gonna do. Sorry, but I gotta choose me.

Events

In 2020 and so on I will not be attending every single event just to be included in the “Incrowd". That is so exhausting. I love attending events and I love networking, but sometimes I feel like I’m goingto these events for the wrong reasons. Sometimes I show up in fear of missing the who’s who that are in attendance. I’m afraid that I’ll regret that opportunity to be included. Not no more chile. FOMO aint running this show anymore. This doesn’t apply to every event, of course I’ll be in attendance to many events, but no longer will I be going for the wrong reasons. If I geniuely don’t want to go or can not go to an event for some reason, I AINT GOING! Still invite though ya’ll. (LOL) This doesn’t apply to everything. Seriously, have you ever gone somewhere that you really didn’t want to go in fear that you’ll miss something or the opportunity to meet someone? It’s like a baby that fights his sleep. That will not be my life anymore and that’s that on that.

Be Myself

FOMO has had me acting like I have to be like others to be recognized. Nope, issa lie, Sis! Opportunities that are for me are just that. FOR ME! What’s for me will not pass me by unless I’m not showing up as myself.. So, for the opportunities that are truly for me I shouldn’t have any fear because if it’s for me, it will be. I’ve had to ask myself, “What are you afraid of missing out on then?” I find myself sometimes setting up for things that aint even mine. Then I get mad when it doesn’t come to fruition. That was not you that showed up anyway. So from now on I think I’ll stick to being myself. All these blessings God throwing my way Yadie betta show up so she can catch em. Hey, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine with me. But Yadie gonna be herself for herself!

So, the takeaway!

FOMO is a lie, a whole lie. Don’t let it stop you from living your best life. It can and it will if you let it. So in 2020 we all need to combat this fear. Choose you sis! Don’t go if you don’t want to! Always, always, always show up as yourself. Now take that fear because I Got This! I win again!