Self Care or Just Selfish?

I want to try something a little different this week. Let’s have a healthy discussion with no judgement.

Don’t bite my head off at the title, hear me out. I am a self care advocate. I strongly believe that you can not pour from an empty cup. Issa fact. But, I feel like the imaginary line in the sand needs to be drawn. Is there a difference between self care and just plain ole selfishness? A friend of mine and I had a conversation recently about this. We are both wives, mothers, employees and entrepreneurs. We are so busy that busy ain’t even the word anymore. I don’t know about her but there are times when I just want out. I become so overwhelmed plot and plan all these escapes, but really I know I ain’t going no where. I thrive on my self care days and I’ve come up with extra things that cater to me so that I’m not so overwhelmed all the time. Self care is super important to me. And choosing myself is also of utmost importance. My life, my goals, outside of mama and bae are important and I’m doing me. I get days off, I self care often, I just signed up to go back to school, my blog is doing really well, so I do choose me. In choosing me and my self care though, I cannot totally disregard my family’s needs and wants. Some of you are out here being mothers and wives and out here living yalls best life. Baby I stan y’all. Trip here, trip there, doing any and everything you damn well please and I’m here for it, but what is the fine line between self care and selfishness?

I have a friend who is a wife and mother and frankly if “eff them kids” were a person that would be her. I mean Sis is doing her in every sense of the word. She once told me that she’s given too much of life up and it’s her time. My friend who’s kids are not even teenagers yet feels like her owning her life is her self care. Now I’m not here to judge. Live your life sis. I know many people who wish they had the courage to do this. Now while I feel like breaks are needed and are indeed self care, where’s that line? At what point does self care become just selfish? So I pose this question to you, is there a fine line between self care and selfishness. Let’s talk about it in the comments.