Let's Talk about Compromise
On November 12th my husband and I celebrated 3 years of marriage. Most people don’t make it that far, so for me that is a huge accomplishment. So I’m clapping it up for us. In my three years of marriage I have learned so many lessons. A few weeks ago I shared three lessons marriage has taught me. This past week I was reminded of something I learned in counseling that could make or break a marriage. That thing is COMPROMISE. OOowweee did I learn this lesson, I figured “happy wife, happy life” was a real life thing. Boy was I wrong. Marriage is an 100% to 100% commitment. It is not 50\50 or any other number you have heard. Both parties must be completely in. And if not, that’s when those problems start to roll in.
Now let me tell yall about my husband. My husband rarely goes out with his friends. He doesn’t really do the clubs or nightlife, but sports is his thing. All week he had been going on and on about a football game he wanted to attend. Naturally I was like “babe go, you never go anywhere.” What I didn’t realize was the game was on the same night as an event I really wanted to go to. I had already RSVP’d and all. Talk about a dilemia. But, the planner in me showed up right on time. I planned everything out perfectly in my head. All I had to do was wait for Friday and execute. How many of us know that things never work out the way we plan? There’s always something that comes to throw a wrench in the plans. And that definetly happened to me. Let’s just call it a conflict with time and a case of the failed baby sitter.
Being the good man that my husband is, he decided to let me go to my event and stay home with the kids. I almost let him, but then I heard my pastor’s voice inside my head. Marriage is about COMPROMISE! Oh Chile those words almost took me out. I’m always going to this event or that one and my husband never really goes anywhere. “You so selfish Sis, let that man go for once,” I said to myself. I came up with an excuse on why I shouldn’t go and that he should just go to the game. If I had told him the truth in that moment, he wouldn’t have went to his game. I’m not gonna lie I was pretty upset that I couldn’t make my event, but that simple gesture unknowingly made my marriage stronger.
Marriage and relationships are all about compromise. Sure this seems like a small gesture, but that’s the way love goes. When you truly love someone you put their needs and sometimes wants before your own. Notice I said sometimes. I’m not saying never do what you want to and always let your spouse live out their best lives. What I am saying is happy marriage, happy life. No one person should get all the benefits. It’s all about compromise. Ladies I know they say “happy wife, happy life” and I’m not saying it is not true. What I’m saying is love is a two way street. Don’t get dumped Sis, listening to what “they say.” Compromise in relationships will go a long way and can lead to a very HAPPY LIFE for everyone included!
